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Sorry for the lack of posts. It’s been one of “those weeks.” Going to a wedding this weekend, so I will have lots of fodder for next week. I promise.


Apologies for the distinct lack of posts. This whole “quitting my job and starting law school” thing has been quite all-consuming lately. Will post more often once I get into a more regular schedule.

Pippa may have epitomized the trend, but she’s certainly not the only maid sporting off-white/ivory/[insert other bridally color here]. Given that the bride typically chooses the color (if not the dress), I imagine these brides were not surprised by their maids’ choices, but it does seem to fly in the face of traditional wedding etiquette.

But if black dresses can be repurposed as bridesmaid chic, why not white? It’s been popping up a lot lately; here are a few of my favorites.

One bridesmaid’s dress is from Zara; the other is vintage. Both are certainly consistent with the feel of this fabulous Australian wedding.

Another example of elegance in Oz

And now some maids in bright white at a wedding in Santa Barbara

What do you think about bridesmaids in traditionally bridal colors? Elegant or confusing?

White dresses are a traditional no-no at weddings for everyone but the bride.


Pippa Middleton and Naomi Campbell are probably the only people who can get away with these dresses.

This is what says about wearing white: “since the popularization of the white wedding dress in the mid-19th century, women have avoided wearing white to a wedding, so that the bride might uniquely shine in her white wedding gown. While this rule, like the ‘no black dresses’ rule, has since been rejected, a female guest should select carefully if she opts to wear white.”

To make white work on a wedding guest, it should be sufficiently different from a wedding gown. Avoid bridal details such as lace and ruffles (and absolutely no train), and spice it up with either tougher accessories, such as a worn leather belt, or colorful accents (either on the dress or the add-ons).

Here are a few of my favorite non-bridal, wedding-appropriate white dresses.


Vivienne Westwood, BCBGeneration, and  Marc by Marc Jacobs

Would you wear white to someone else’s wedding? Would you care if someone wore white to yours?

Black is not a traditional color for wedding guests. Here are some suggestions for tastefully skirting the rules around black.

Keep black wedding-appropriate by lightening the look of the dress with fun details, like this swingy dress by Love Moschino or this bow-front Thread Social number. (Bonus points for the exposed zipper.)

Colorful accessories are another way to play up the fun factor of the standard LBD. I especially love bright and colorful shoes and jewelry. (Both photos taken from bachelorette parties.)

Would you wear black to a wedding? Do you think this rule’s out of date? How have you spiced up the ordinary little black dress?

Buying off the registry can be tricky. As previously mentioned, couples register for items they would like to own. This is a no-brainer for guests. There are times, though, when you find something that absolutely strikes you as “perfect” for the couple.

(Feeling giving? You can buy this for me from Anthropologie.)

And there are times when you strike gold while hunting bargains.

Le Creuset 13 1/4-Qt Round Dutch ($415.00)/French ($409.99) Oven

If you decide to rebel against all things registry, I encourage providing a gift receipt, and sending early, so that if there is overlap with the registry, the couple can make any necessary changes.

And if 6 months after the wedding, you don’t see your beloved gift in their home? You knew it was a gamble. Forgive them for returning it.


Have you ever given a gift that wasn’t on a registry? What inspired you to break from the norm?

A newspaper.

Also: the three colors a wedding guest is not supposed to wear to another’s nuptials. For many, this rule has gone the way of “no white after Labor Day,” aka fashion obsolescence. However, some traditionally-minded guests, or conservative wedding hosts, might like to hold tight to this policy. Here are some reasons why.

Sadly, black dresses may conjure up images of a scheming Morticia Addams and/or funeral garb.

White dresses can be too bridal, especially if the bride herself wears a short or less gown-like dress. (Pop quiz: Which of these dresses is from a bridal salon?)


(Answer: None.)

As for red, well, there’s a reason there’s an entire song written about a lady in red–a red dress is an attention-grabber. Red dresses may be too tight, too revealing, or just too much look

None of which is tasteful for a wedding environment because it draws eyes away from the deserved centers of attention (i.e. the couple).

Are rules just made to be broken? Or are there occasions when it’s best to play it safe? Stay tuned for some suggestions on skirting these rules…

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